It’s All About the Genitals

The second myth in the series 5 Myths Women Believe About Sex is: It’s All About The Genitals.

Myth #2 suggests that sex is just a physical act. If so, it can be experienced with anyone regardless of relationship or context. This is a common message of our culture. Sex is so much more! Sex is about intimacy.

What does intimacy mean to you?

• Free-flowing conversation?
• A deep sense of trust?
• Warm affection?
• Sexual connection?

Intimacy may include all of these. But at its core, intimacy means being deeply known and loved as well as deeply knowing and loving the other. It is about closeness and connection. Real intimacy makes us feel alive because someone has taken great care to look into the depths of our soul and see us for who we truly are and love what they see.

Intimacy is far more than sex, but it is also sex. Sex was actually created to be a physical expression of the emotional and spiritual oneness of the couple, and the deepest form of intimate communication. Here we can bring our vulnerability, our bodies, our complete selves and offer them as gift to the other.

Our culture has separated sex as a stand alone experience void of any need for emotional closeness or commitment. “Friends with benefits” suggests you can simply be a friend and offer sex for the mere physical satisfaction. The act itself means nothing.

On the contrary, the Bible tells us that sex is sacred. It is a beautiful union God designed to bring us pleasure and him glory. He delights in our pleasure. He even says our physical union is like the union of Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:32). We suffer from low view of sex!

Sex is not just a physical act. It is a oneness we were made to crave: “the two shall become one flesh” (Gen 2:24) This oneness can only be enjoyed in the context of committed relationship, because it is here that one’s physical, emotional and spiritual lives can be joined. It’s a total package.

Love to hear your comments about Myth #2!
Stay tuned for Myth #3!